July 2009


yard-saleSix years ago when we moved to Lancaster, I developed a love for going to yard sales.  Is it the thrill of the hunt or the reward of the good deal?  I’d say both.  Not only is yard-saleing a hobby that I enjoy but it has become a means for me to get what I need for our family by stretching our budget much further.  I keep telling Steve how much he owes me for all that I’ve saved us.  For some reason I still haven’t seen that money.  Anyway… a few people have asked me how I do it.  How do you find all that good stuff?  There is no secret, it’s simply trial and error.  But there are a few things I’ve learned along the way and thought I’d pass them along.  I realize this post will only be of interest to a select few but I hope it’s helpful to someone!

Buy a map The $12 that you spend on a map of Lancaster County will go a looooong way towards your success.  My map is shredded and ripped and falling apart.  I need a new one.  You can find them at Turkey Hill and other stores.

Go often To be a successful yard-saler, you simply must go!  I usually prefer Friday morning, but some like Saturdays.  You can’t just go once or twice a year and then say, “I never have any luck when I go!!”  Get out and go often.  Many times a sale will be a total bomb.  Don’t be discouraged or think of it as a waste of time.  Try again, you will certainly hit a good one at some point.

Go early It really is true that the early bird gets the worm.  The best is if you can get up super early and go before your husband leaves for work!  I often do that, go to just a sale or 2 before Steve has to leave.

Don’t be afraid to take your kids If going w/out your kids is not an option, take them along!  You can find them all kinds of treasures, many times in the free box.  My older girls have become good shoppers, often finding things that they have been wanting.  We have gotten many good board games, books and toys because of their shopping eyes!

Most sales are in the spring and fall There are not too many sales over the summer months, you will find them mostly in April/May and Sept./Oct.

Be a smart ad reader I read the local advertiser and Intel (you can access that one on-line: lancasteronline.com) weekly to catch the sales.  The tricky part about ads is that some people over-advertise and then others under-advertise.  For example, not every ad that reads (Brand name kids clothes-excellent condition) is such.  Most of the time it is true, but not always.  I think that I have found the most success at the ones that tend to under-advertise.  For example, if the ad simply reads: kids clothes, primitive decor, Longenberger baskets, etc.  There is the clue.  Although you may not decorate with primitive decor, most people who put money into their house by buying things like Longaberger baskets will most likely have spent money on nice kids clothes as well.

Also along these lines, many people think that the best yard sale are the development sales.  Although these are good for some reasons (taking kids along) I find they are usually over-crowded and picked over.

Stay local (most of the time!) This is especially helpful if you have to drag your kids along or don’t have a lot of time to kill.  I have never yard-saled in Lititz or Elizabethtown.  I often see good ads for up there, but they are just too far away for me.  I will occasionally venture out further if I have a lot of extra time or am going with someone.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions This has probably been the key to my continued success in regards to my kids clothing.  If you find someone who has clothes that you like and are the size that you need, ask them if they have the sale every year, when they usually have it, etc.  Then hit it again next year!  They want you to buy their stuff as much as you want to buy it.  Don’t be shy, even ask for their phone number or e-mail address!

Have an eye for restoration That ugly table could be really cute with a coat of paint.  What about pulling the out-of-date flowers off of that wreath?  New knobs and paint for that dresser?  My recent good find was a solid wood, silver end table for $2.  I painted it black and it looks very sharp!  It still needs a handle…

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Shop ahead I usually buy a year ahead for my kids clothes.  When all is right with the world, I have bins in order in the basement and if I purchase something, I wash it and just throw it in the appropiate bin.  When a new season comes around, it is so nice to just pull out the bin and have my child fully clothed!!  Here is a pic of my actual basement:

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Not every find is a good deal! Just because it is at a yard sale does not mean it is a good deal.  Most people in our area price very fair, but not all.

Beware of over-buying This temptation strikes me most often in the area of my kids clothing.  To see many cute things for only 50 cents, how can you possibly pass it up?!?!  Or, I”ll open up the winter bin and realize that they have 3 pairs of khaki pants.  The more organized I am at home, the less tempted I am to over-buy.

I know that there are many other ladies in the church who have been more successful than I.  Anybody else have any tips?

familysilhouette1I have benefited from living in the light with others in many areas of my life including my sin struggles and my marriage. But one area I can grow in is being intentional about asking others for input in my parenting.  Why am I eager to talk to others about many areas of my life, but not parenting?  This ultimately comes down to pride in my life; wanting others to think I have the parenting “thing” down, and am a “model” father!  It’s such a sinful desire and I know that God wants me to grow in being more transparent in this area by his grace. 

One practical way I can grow is in asking specific questions of others in my care group, such as – “While we were together this evening, were there any areas of my leadership or parenting that you were concerned about?” or “Are there any inconsistencies that you see in my parenting?” or  “What would be one area in my parenting that you see the need for growth?” or “The last conflict went like this…what is your advice?” or “My faith is weak how can I grow?”.  Living in fellowship (whom God has placed us with) is a wonderful means of grace to us.  Let’s take full advantage.

Will you come along with me, by God’s grace, in living in the light? Oh maywe all live in the light with our parenting for the glory of God and gospel growth in our families.

Depression is a form of suffering. “”Live long enough and we all will suffer. . .” D. A. Carson writes in his book How Long O Lord. Depression is a common experience for many. Whether it is a mild mood swing downward for a day or a long season of dark despair, most of us at sometime or another will experience some form of emotional depression.

Attempting to understand depression is not an easy task. While its expression in human experience may look similar, its causes are  varied and it defies simple diagnosis. Comments such as:

  • “You must have a chemical imbalance.”
  • “You’re worshiping an idol”
  • “It’s understandable, you just lost a child.”
  • “God is teaching you a lesson.”
  • “You’re just lazy. Why don’t you try exercise.”

do little to help a person gain perspective. Often depressed people feel trapped behind heavy steel doors that are locked from the outside. In their minds they have ceased to exist because they have stopped feeling. They have lost their bearings.

So what do we do when we encounter loved ones in this state? How do we as brothers and sisters in the Lord come to their aid? One of the most important first steps in helping a depressed person is something I learned during the time surrounding my granddaughter’s death. The experience of losing someone so little and so lovely and so full of life was not something I could easily understand. When people attempted to comfort me with simple explanations, although I understood their heart, I experienced little consolation. What mattered more than anything else was their presence. They were there. They listened. They wept. They cared enough to walk beside us. They came to the hospital, the viewing, and the funeral.

In this video, Ed Welch describes some simple steps that we all can employ in caring for those among us who are struggling with depression.Walking with a person is half the battle.

Ed’s book is available at our Bookstore, Depression–A Stubborn Darkness: Light for the Path. You can also read the first few pages of chapter 1.

To be like JesusI have 2 copies of the brand new Sovereign Grace kid’s album: “To be like Jesus“, and I’d like to give them away!

In order to win one of these cd’s, you must:

1. Be an attender at Crossway Church

2. Be a KID – 12 years old or younger than 12

3. Be under 6 feet 4 inches tall

4. Complete the following questions, and be one of the first 2 to get the answers all correct

Winners and their answers to be posted next Tuesday.

On your mark, get set…

  1. Where in the Bible do we find Paul tell us about the “Fruit of the Holy Spirit”?
  2. Why is it important that we have this kind of fruit in our lives?
  3. Why is it so hard for us to have this kind of fruit in our lives?

Include also your full name and your parent’s email address.

“…it is very important for us to call upon him: First, that our hearts may be fired with a zealous and burning desire ever to seek, love, and serve him, while we become accustomed in every need to flee to him as to a sacred anchor. Secondly, that there may enter our hearts no desire and no wish at all of which we should be ashamed to make him a witness, while we learn to set all our wishes before his eyes, and even to pour out our whole hearts. Thirdly, that we be prepared to receive his benefits with true gratitude of heart and thanksgiving, benefits that our prayer reminds us come from his hand [cf. Ps. 145:15-16]. Fourthly, moreover, that, having obtained what we were seeking, and being convinced that he has answered our prayers, we should be led to meditate upon his kindness more ardently. And fifthly, that at the same time we embrace with greater delight those things which we acknowledge to have been obtained by prayers.  Finally, that use and experience may, according to the measre of our feebleness, confirm his providence, while we understand not only that he promises never to fail us, and of his own will opens the way to call upon him at the very point of necessity, but also that he ever extends his hand to help his own, not wet-nursing them with words but defending them with present help.”

-Calvin, Institutes, III, xx, 2

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” John 14:15

Until just a few days ago, whenever I would read this verse, I thought, “Ok, to show God I love Him, I need to obey!”  And so, I would quickly take my obedience into my own hands and sort-of ‘pick myself up by the bootstraps’ and think I must just ‘start obeying!’

But, I always fail miserably.  And then, I find myself feeling condemned, overwhelmed, and hopeless to ever get this ‘loving God and obeying’ thing right!

Can you relate to this at all?

I am reading my new favorite book right now, “Comforts from the Cross”, by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, and in it she addresses this verse, and the Holy Spirit has used it to bring great clarity and help for me… I have been viewing this verse ALL WRONG!

The stress of this verse isn’t on obeying, but rather loving God.  If I love God, obedience will naturally flow from me.  What a shift this brought in my thinking—my focus should be on my love for God!  And how am I to do that?

Elyse Fitzpatrick writes, “The apostle John knew that the only way love for God could be created in us was through a grasp of God’s prior love to us.  He simply stated, “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19).  The plain truth is that my love for God (and hence, my obedience) will grow as I cultivate my comprehension of his vast love for me.  This is the wonderful promise of our Savior and the only sure method for true growth in godliness.”

So, if you’re anything like me, and you see your need for growth in obedience to God, may I suggest that you join me in marveling at the great love He has shown us?  Feel free to camp out there!  It can only result in “More Love to Thee” (to quote one of my recently favorite songs) and therefore an outpouring of true obedience and keeping of his commandments.

handsRecently I read a timely blog article from Stephen Altrogge (theblazingcenter.com) on unbelief. It’s really something we all deal with. I find it in every dark corner of my sinful soul.  It reveals itself in many ways but especially in self-pity.  “Why is this happening to me?”  “I can’t believe this!” “Can’t anything go right?”  Do any of these statements sound familiar?

When we find ourselves questioning the goodness of God, consider this simple exercise given to us from our friend, Stephen Altrogge . . .

  • CIRCUMSTANCE: You have yet another conflict with your son or daughter.
  • UNBELIEF: I will never change, my child will never change.
  • ACCUSATION: God why are you letting this happen to me? Why do I have to deal with this unruly child? My son/daughter will never follow God.
  • TRUTH: The gospel is the power of God to save and change your child. God is working these conflicts for your good and his glory.

The remedy to unbelief is belief (truth)!  We must remind ourselves what Christ has done for us on the Cross each and every day.  Allow these verses from Romans sink in as you read them… “He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not graciously give us all things?” “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”

Everything that happens in our life is meant for our good and for God’s glory.  Nothing happens outside of God’s control. Can he be trusted? Yes! Why? Because he sent his own Son to become sin for us!

So, how about you?  What serves your soul when unbelief grips you?

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